Some long-distance relationships are inevitable. Could be school or work. You don’t want your relationship to come in between your personal growth so that is the only option, that is if you still want to commit to the relationship.
Is it worth it?
If you have something concrete to look forward to together, it will definitely work. If you are not an overthinker who will keep thinking “Is he/she hanging out with other people?”.
Sometimes uncertainties can grow into legit existential crises and conflicts. If there are no set milestones that both of you are looking forward to, the relationship might not last. Relationships that are not progressing are definitely dying.
Is it love or lust?
If its real love, affection and both parties are committed, then the relationship will last. Some are only fueled by lust so who is to say that your partner will not lust over another person when you are miles apart?
Hyper reactive and jealous?
So, your partner is in a party with the other gender. It’s a wind ding so your imagination starts going wild. She is there without you. Some partners tend to exaggerate.
Will you be able to communicate effectively and consistently every day?
Communication is vital in a relationship. However, it is not always or every day that you will have a flowing conversation or a lot to talk about. Will you accuse your partner of half -assing the relationship? Will you make communication optional? (Of course based on the amount of trust that you accord each other)
The most important thing about any relationship is emotional intimacy. Yet even though it’s less physically intimate, long-distance relationships are actually happier because they’re more grounded in the “emotional closeness” that comes with being emotionally present on a daily basis.
So there are many ways that people can stay emotionally close even if they cannot be physically proximate all the time, and technology has made this easier than ever before.
Is there hope or is it just hopeless?
Shared goals or a happily ever after maybe?
A long-distance relationship needs hope. Light at the end of the tunnel. Shared goals and vision. If both visions are not aligned, then its hopeless.
Distance will prevent constricted intimacy from forming meaningfully. Most of it is only a vague idea. The exposure is minimal, no real intimacy or experiences. Full Personality and character can only be fully exposed through constant physical interactions. Body language, facial expressions et cetera.
Its an easy way to overlook the important differences that will otherwise be conspicuous on a daily through a one-on-one interaction.
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